The energy and excitement about Valentine’s Day demanded that retailers stock up early on candy, balloons, roses, greeting cards, stuffed animals, and whatever else that will help people make a love connection on February 14th.
Valentine’s Day is an anticipated holiday for many partners and couples….an occasion to set aside just to express their love and affection for each other. For some, it’s a time to be alone and enjoy each other’s company. Whether it’s at a quiet dinner in a cozy corner of a dimly lit restaurant, or among a reveling crowd at Mardi Gras, it’s a time to connect with that special person.
But for many the valentine connection is short-term because their relationship is casual or just physical; therefore, it has no depth, width, or height, and offers no real connection powerful enough to sustain each other through tough times. Unfortunately, the world’s focus of Valentine centers on romance. Hopefully, Christians have a broader perspective and a divine concept.
Please don’t misunderstand me romance is a wonderful experience governed by godly principles; however in order to maintain a healthy relationship it requires more than romance. Romance is driven by emotion. And depending on the mood, or feelings on any given day, there’s no romance. Not to mention, it’s easy to mistake love for lust especially on Valentine’s Day.
Of course, on the flip side, Valentine’s Day is just another day for some people because they don’t have anyone to celebrate it with; so they ignore it. Some people are so heartbroken by their ‘loveless’ dilemma that they are depressed on Valentine’s Day.
But here’s a different twist—a biblical perspective on making a “love connection” this Valentine’s Day…
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is (springs) from God; and he who loves [his fellowmen] is begotten (born) of God and is coming [progressively] to know and understand God [to perceive and recognize and get a better and clearer knowledge of Him]. —I John 4:7-8 (Amplified)
Gleaning from the above passage, a fundamental principle for having a love connection is a spiritual experience that originates with God, and is continuous as one’s knowledge, understanding, perception and recognition of God gets better and becomes clearer. It’s also known as growing in your faith walk and relationship with Christ, which also equates to spiritual maturity. It’s impossible to grow spiritually without being in a committed relationship with God. [Just like in the natural…relationships are either broken or developed based on commitment to the relationship].
As my personal love connection with God becomes an essential part of my life, I have a different perspective on God’s concept of love. I recognize it as being “The Law of Love”—God’s law of love that should govern every aspect of human existence. It’s not like a faucet that I can turn on and off. Whether it’s Valentine Day, Presidents’ Day,or the State recognized Confederate Heroes holiday, my love is constant because now I’m allowing God’s law of love to govern my attitude and my actions. It’s a choice I made, and my actions must be consistent with my choice.
The law of love becomes the motivation for everything I do and say. It is not based on my emotion, opinion, or personal preferences. It is motivated by God’s love— this is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him (I John 4:9). Each day as I personally experience Christ’s love through the indwelling Spirit of God, it motivates and empowers me to express and demonstrate that love with others unconditionally. In other words, the “fruit of the Spirit” is evident.
Why is that? I made a conscience decision to OBEY God’s command.
“If you love me, keep my commandments.” (John 14:15 NLT)
“If you love me, show it by doing what I’ve told you.” (John 14:15 Message)
“…all who love me will do what I say.” (John 14:23NLT)
In essence, God’s law of love is consummated by my obedience to His Word whether it’s Valentine’s Day or not.
However, Valentine’s Day is an opportune time for a demonstration of the law of love, not just with your significant other, but with everyone that God allows to cross your path, even your enemies…
Make a true love connection!
©2010 Queen E. F. Phillips