Letters of Comfort: Loss of a husband


Letters of Comfort

“And now, dear brothers and sisters, we want you to know what will happen to  the believers who have died so you will not grieve like people who have no  hope.
For since  we believe that Jesus died and was raised to life again, we also believe that  when Jesus returns, God will bring back with him the believers who have died.”                                         —I Thessalonians  4:13-14


The Apostle Paul wrote this letter of comfort to the Thessalonians to encourage them to grow in faith and love as well as remind
them of their hope in the Lord.

The tragedies and traumatic experiences in life can cause the strongest of individuals to buckle in grief and sorrow.  Apostle Paul makes it clear that grief is inevitable, but as Christians our grief is  not swallowed up by hopelessness.

Yet, there are chapters in our lives when loss is so great you cannot fathom a glimmer of hope.  The pain of separation is immeasurable
to the point of doubt that causes us to question the wisdom of God, which says He’s too wise to make a mistake.  It is at this point that our cry for comfort is answered from the God of all comfort.  We emerge from the darkness that would have overwhelmed our faith in the amazing grace and faithfulness of our heavenly Father, the Sovereign Ruler and Creator.

I bore witness to the pain of separation when I had to say farewell to my mother. Although I knew her death was a transition from this earthly life to an eternal life, it did not lessen the pain, grief and sorrow I experienced.  However, it was the Word of Life that
penetrated my subconscious and supernaturally energized my spirit so that eternal hope blossomed like a springtime flower.  I had to let my faith in the Word take root in my heart by continuing to say what the God of all comfort had spoken, “My grace is sufficient for you, for m power is made perfect in weakness.”  We all deal with grief differently; but as Christians we must share the same message
of hope as Paul to inspire others who are struggling with questions about death, grief and sorrow.  Letters of Comfort offer words of inspiration to help during those difficult chapters of life.  Below is a sample letter of comfort for the loss of a Christian husband:

Dearly Beloved,

Grace and peace be multiplied to you from God our  Father and Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.

I was glad to hear of your faith and trust in the sovereignty of God. I’m writing to offer words of comfort to you during this time of grief.  There is no denying that you have suffered a great loss. In fact, we all have suffered a loss. Your husband was a gentle giant; filled with the glory of God through wisdom and experience. I can’t personally say I know how you feel, but I can remind you that God knows. 

Just as you cry tears of sadness because of your loss, I’m hopeful that you will also shed tears of joy. Your husband was a God-sent…a mighty of man of valor that touched and changed lives through his kindness, words of wisdom and love.  He was a blessing to all who knew him; I’m sure you are aware of his great deeds. Remember he’s only sleeping according to I Thessalonians 4:13,14, “…But I do not want you to be ignorant…concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus.”

Hoping all the things that made him a special gift from God will forever bless your life as you reflect on the beautiful memories you all shared together.  I pray these words will minister comfort as you remember the precious life of your husband.

The family sends their sincere and heartfelt sympathy. You will be in our prayers both day and night. We are trusting in the faithfulness of God  to comfort you during this time.

Enclosed is a small token of love. Hopefully, it will help you in  some way. Please call me for whatever needs may arise. 

Words of comfort,
 From my heart,


One thought on “Letters of Comfort: Loss of a husband

  1. Thank you for sharing the words of your loss of your mother, and the letter that tells of the loss of the husband of a dear saint of God. Please let me say something, but without adding anything to the powerful thoughts that you have provided… Death is horrible; it was not a part of God’s plan. I can very easily join in and share tears with both of you; you who have lost loved ones who were, and are still, important parts of your minds. The 1 Thessalonians 4:13 words are very important. We are told to not sorrow as those who have no hope. A woman who was an important part of my ministry team came to lean on those words during the three years that I knew her. She was fifty-seven years old, and had never been married. She was disabled and had to live with her mother and sister; her sister was also disabled. It was on a Friday evening that we were discussing a sermon that I would be preaching that I closed our conversation with, “we’ll talk again tomorrow .” For that precious saint, “tomorrow never came.” She had been bedridden, and had developed an undetected blood clot in one of her legs. During the early hours of the morning she stood up from her bed and fell to the floor, dead. It appears that she had been experiencing difficulty in breathing, so she stood up, and suffered a heart attack. I can not understand why such a death should happen. She was more able to take care of her elderly mother, than could her sister. Another precious lady, who is also a member of our ministry team, designed a tile in tribute to our deceased sister. On the tile she wrote, “Sorrow not as those who have no hope,” 1 Thes 4:13… I will pray for you and for the lady who suffered the loss of her husband. May our Lord Jesus richly bless both of you.


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