Trying to please others is a way of life for some people. Unfortunately, they believe if they are accepted by others they will somehow be better, have better or do better. In other words, they anticipate being rewarded by pleasing people.
In the book, Search for Significance, by Robert S. McGee, he explains in details the “approval addict.”
“Our self-concept is determined not only by how we view ourselves, but by how we think others perceive us. Basing our self-worth on what we believe others think of us causes us to become addicts to their approval.”
Rather than focusing on what we believe others think about us or trying to gain their approval, we must change our way of thinking to focus on and believe what God says about us. In essence, we should become “faith addicts.” Regardless of what other people say or think, choose to believe God. Putting your faith and confidence in what others think and say can lead to great disappointment and hurt. God will never hurt or disappoint you; He loves you too much. (Isaiah 53: 3-11; John 3: 15-17).
In Hebrews 11:6, “Without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.”
The author of Hebrews gives a detailed description of faith and provides a list of biblical characters in the “Faith Hall of Fame” as examples for us. The author’s description of faith is indeed a tough one. The biblical characters that demonstrated tough faith did not live lives of luxury and ease. They believed God and acted on what they believed; their faith was consistent—the kind of faith that demonstrated a constant commitment to hang on and believe God against all odds, no matter what. This is what pleases God: your constant faith and trust in Him that He keeps His promises and His word is true.
Instead of being approval addicts of people, become faith addicts of Christ. Trying to please people requires inconsistency and emotional imbalance and physical stress that negatively affect your overall well-being. Why put yourself at risk mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually?
Instead of acrobatic performances to gain the approval of people, which will never happen, redirect your thoughts and behavior to seek after God wholeheartedly. Resolve to take Him at His word. Regardless of your challenges, put God in remembrance of His word. Stand firmly, stay focused, and declare what God says until it manifest in your life!
This is what I am doing! Will you join me?
Your comments are welcome:
Have you learned that you can never really please people no matter how hard you try?
Will you commit to believing God and receiving the rewards that He will give for coming to Him?